March 30, 2016
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Dare to Consider the Possibilities

Tonight I sat in my neighbor’s back yard while our kids played superheroes together, and the two babies flirted consistently with serious injury. I was telling them about the feeling I had when I first moved to Nashville from my home town of Cedar Park, just outside of Austin, TX. I said the world felt huge and wide open, that I was struck by the vast possibilities and the endless number of people and paths that I could walk. “I could move to Europe tomorrow and that would be just fine and no one could stop me!” I remembered thinking. […]
March 28, 2016
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Beware the Dangers of Quick Riches

In one of the pillars of success literature, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill states, “Quick riches are more dangerous than poverty.” Perhaps that’s why, according to the New York Daily News, almost 70% of lottery winners end up broke within 7 years. I can tell you whose fault it isn’t: the money. Money doesn’t make you broke. I know many people with a good amount of it, and they’ve managed to not only keep from going broke, but to grow that money, to invest and give generously, to do great things with that tool. One pretty crucial difference between […]
March 23, 2016
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How to Use Roles and Goals for ‘Lifestyle Design’

I wrote a blog recently about drifting toward bad and planning toward good—in other words, a life that you desire, a fulfilling life of purpose and meaning, doesn’t come about by accident. It doesn’t fall into your lap. You’re saying, “That’s all well and good, Brian, but your son Oliver is walking superhero proof that you can’t plan your life out.” I agree. He is, and you can’t. It’s a balance. I can’t plan my life out the way I might schedule a day or a week. Age 23 – Get a record deal. Age 25 – Get married and have […]
March 21, 2016
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How to Quit Sabotaging Yourself In 3 Easy Steps

This article was originally written for and published on www.oohbother.com. It has since been revised. You don’t care about anyone but yourself. And neither do I. (To clarify, I don’t care about anyone but myself, not yourself.) This is a recipe for disaster, and it was true at one point, until I learned a few things the hard way. Until I was humbled by a difficult and important conversation. When I first quit Love and Theft (that’s right, I was once a D-list celebrity), I was in a tailspin. Not because I had done the wrong thing–I hadn’t–but because I […]
March 18, 2016
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What I Learned While Burning Ants With a Magnifying Glass

Those poor little ants. They were no match for the 8-year-old me and my magnifying glass. If they foolishly stood still for more than perhaps 2 seconds, they were incinerated. How interesting that the very same sunlight which you may use to get a nice base bronze or to slowly and gently grow delicate flowers from seeds, can simultaneously be used to create a mini furnace of intense, life-smothering, simmering heat! That’s the power of focus. It’s the same sunlight. The same temperature outside, the same weather, the same distance from the sun. The only difference is how those rays are […]
March 16, 2016
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How I Know I’ll Be a Millionaire

  It’s an arrogant thing to say. I’m going to be rich. I’m going to be a millionaire. It seems shallow, greedy, perhaps selfish. I recognize, at least, that I’ve been wrongly programmed to think of it that way. Growing up in the Bible belt, I grew comfortable with wrong teachings about money and wealth, any sort of trite generalization to keep me from loving the necessary evil that is money. Life isn’t all about money. Money can’t buy you happiness. The love of money is the root of all evil. Etc, etc, etc. The reality is that money matters. […]