May 29, 2017
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What if you had the AUDACITY?

Today, I encourage you to consider what goals you would set if you just had the brash audacity to set them. This is an idea I lifted while reading the book The 10X Rule by Grant Cardone. (Highly recommended if you want to get motivated to explore levels of effort that you haven’t experienced before!) We often don’t set truly ambitious goals because, as soon as we think them, our lizard brain tells us not to bother, we can’t do it. In fact, I’ll be the first to confess that when I want something badly, I’m more apt to avoid going […]
October 13, 2016
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Defeating the Self-Perpetuating “Truth”

On our team, we talk a lot about limiting beliefs. A limiting belief is anything that you hold to be true—whether that is the case or not—that you then base you actions upon, and often they preclude you from doing what you are capable of or need to do. There is a particularly sinister type of limiting belief that I’ve run up against recently that I’m going to talk about today: The self-perpetuating truth. The self-perpetuating truth is a belief that is only true because you believe it. Or to say it another way: if you didn’t believe it, it […]
March 21, 2016
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How to Quit Sabotaging Yourself In 3 Easy Steps

This article was originally written for and published on www.oohbother.com. It has since been revised. You don’t care about anyone but yourself. And neither do I. (To clarify, I don’t care about anyone but myself, not yourself.) This is a recipe for disaster, and it was true at one point, until I learned a few things the hard way. Until I was humbled by a difficult and important conversation. When I first quit Love and Theft (that’s right, I was once a D-list celebrity), I was in a tailspin. Not because I had done the wrong thing–I hadn’t–but because I […]
January 29, 2016
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How ‘The Resistance’ Prevents You From Creating

In Steven Pressfield’s book, The War of Art, Pressfield talks about a creative person’s arch nemesis: the resistance. Allow me first to describe to you a creative person. This doesn’t apply exclusively to the traditionally creative, although they are included. No fedoras or recreational drugs or cluttered art studios required, for this to apply to you. Look at the root of the word “creative”—create. Anyone who is trying to create something exceptional in their life—be it building a rich marriage that inspires those around you, writing a rock opera, starting a sweet roll bakery or inventing the world’s greatest board game—falls […]
January 25, 2016
VANDENBERG AIR FORCE BASE, Calif. – Getting team V Fit to fight (literally), the 30th Force Support Squadron offers a challenging boxing workout on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 5-7 p.m. with boxing coach Don Green. For more information, call the Vandenberg Fitness Center at 606-3832. (U.S. Air Force photo/Airman 1st Class Kerelin Molina)

4 Ways to Combat the Comparison Trap Before it Kills Your Mindset

In my previous post, I talked about the dangers of the Comparison Trap. Comparing yourself, your circumstances or your accomplishments to other people robs you of gratitude, diminishes your perceived value and that of your actions, and places you in a victim mindset. I didn’t want to leave you hanging after delivering such a cautionary message. So here are a few strategies that we can use to combat this trap and continue taking powerful action from a sound mindset. Celebrate your own victories Take the time to celebrate your victories, however large or small. No, I may not accomplish the […]
January 8, 2016
True leadership is backed by character, and by the fortitude not of inflated pride and ego, but of humility that is eager to learn and is aware that in order to achieve success, one must maintain a humble spirit.

How True Humility Creates True Leaders

Recently I struck up a conversation with a young man who is interning at the office of our real estate brokerage. We were both on our way out and started chatting in the lobby. I began to wax eloquent (probably unsolicited—what can I say? I love to teach!) on my experience in real estate, what it means to me and my family to work for myself, and the excitement I felt over the tremendous growth I’d experienced. So this young guy asked me then if we could get coffee together, and I was excited to oblige him. When we finally sat […]