January 25, 2016
VANDENBERG AIR FORCE BASE, Calif. – Getting team V Fit to fight (literally), the 30th Force Support Squadron offers a challenging boxing workout on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 5-7 p.m. with boxing coach Don Green. For more information, call the Vandenberg Fitness Center at 606-3832. (U.S. Air Force photo/Airman 1st Class Kerelin Molina)

4 Ways to Combat the Comparison Trap Before it Kills Your Mindset

In my previous post, I talked about the dangers of the Comparison Trap. Comparing yourself, your circumstances or your accomplishments to other people robs you of gratitude, diminishes your perceived value and that of your actions, and places you in a victim mindset. I didn’t want to leave you hanging after delivering such a cautionary message. So here are a few strategies that we can use to combat this trap and continue taking powerful action from a sound mindset. Celebrate your own victories Take the time to celebrate your victories, however large or small. No, I may not accomplish the […]
January 11, 2016
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What I Learned About Leadership From a Snarky Real Estate Agent

As you may know, I work in real estate here in beautiful Nashville, TN. Yesterday I heard another agent remark with an old adage, “Buyers are liars.” I cringed. First of all, to clarify, the spirit behind the phrase is this: It’s not that buyers are actual, miscreant, immoral spewers of deception. It refers to the propensity of people buying a home to be—perhaps unwittingly—unclear on what they want. One day they want this, then you show it to them and they change their minds and they want that. We’ve all been indecisive at some point in our lives, right? […]
January 8, 2016
True leadership is backed by character, and by the fortitude not of inflated pride and ego, but of humility that is eager to learn and is aware that in order to achieve success, one must maintain a humble spirit.

How True Humility Creates True Leaders

Recently I struck up a conversation with a young man who is interning at the office of our real estate brokerage. We were both on our way out and started chatting in the lobby. I began to wax eloquent (probably unsolicited—what can I say? I love to teach!) on my experience in real estate, what it means to me and my family to work for myself, and the excitement I felt over the tremendous growth I’d experienced. So this young guy asked me then if we could get coffee together, and I was excited to oblige him. When we finally sat […]
December 18, 2015
The truly great leader doesn't need to announce his own success or sing her own greatness. She has mastered the process of patiently allowing the excellent people around her do the talking for her.

Do You Let Others Toot Your Horn For You?

My first professional gig as a guitar player was with a Christian hip-hop artist named DJ Maj. I was so excited to be playing music for actual money, to be able to proudly claim the coveted tag, “professional musician.” It validated me. It felt good. It felt like moving to Nashville with only one local acquaintance (and not a damn clue) maybe wasn’t so hair-brained. I remember one evening, sitting on the front bench of our 16-passenger van, watching the white lines speed by through the night as we drove away from another show at a church somewhere out in […]