October 13, 2016
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Defeating the Self-Perpetuating “Truth”

On our team, we talk a lot about limiting beliefs. A limiting belief is anything that you hold to be true—whether that is the case or not—that you then base you actions upon, and often they preclude you from doing what you are capable of or need to do. There is a particularly sinister type of limiting belief that I’ve run up against recently that I’m going to talk about today: The self-perpetuating truth. The self-perpetuating truth is a belief that is only true because you believe it. Or to say it another way: if you didn’t believe it, it […]
June 28, 2016
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A Powerful Exercise in Writing Down Goals

I’m not the first to say it, and I won’t be the last: Write down your goals! Something happens when you make that transition. It’s no longer a daydream or a neat idea—it’s a goal. As I said a few days ago, you need to make that transition from hoping that something comes to pass, to beginning to solve the problem of how it will come to pass. By writing down your goals, you make that mental transition. It’s a commitment of sorts. We are all wired or conditioned, as Robert Cialdini writes, in his book Influence, to place a […]
March 14, 2016
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3 Lessons I Learned From a Mentor Just This Morning

This morning I sat at Frothy Monkey, a cozy little coffee shop in downtown Franklin, TN, and spoke with a man about 25 years my senior. Kent has a demeanor that I envy. He has a contentment and calm gentleness that I’d love to emulate. He is sincerely interested in who you are, and commands a genuineness that is rare these days. Interestingly, Kent is a highly successful businessman, despite not being the hard-edged shark that we like to envision. He’s enjoyed some good runs and also been humbled a time or two, and was gracious enough to sit with […]
March 4, 2016
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5 Reasons to Become a Better Listener TODAY

I want to become a better listener. No, I need to become a better listener. And you do too! Your ability to listen—to genuinely, selflessly listen—is what will allow you to build rapport with strangers, to forge meaningful relationships, to expand your influence, and ultimately your opportunity to contribute to others’ lives. I’m sure I’ve omitted a bevy of additional benefits to improving this skill, but my hope is that these five tasty morsels will have you hungry to purposefully improve your desire and ability to listen. After all, step one to communicating well is to LISTEN! Listen to Learn […]
February 12, 2016
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5 Powerful Benefits of the DISC Profile Test

When I am going through the process of hiring a new rock star to our team, the first thing I do is ask that person to complete a DISC Profile. (If you’re not familiar with this, I whole-heartedly encourage you to click on over and take advantage of this fantastic tool.) If you’re not sold, though, don’t worry. That doesn’t surprise me at all. I can frequently tell that people are thrown off when I ask for this during the hiring process. In fact, I was pretty reticent myself. “You can’t possibly think that you can get to know me […]
January 25, 2016
VANDENBERG AIR FORCE BASE, Calif. – Getting team V Fit to fight (literally), the 30th Force Support Squadron offers a challenging boxing workout on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 5-7 p.m. with boxing coach Don Green. For more information, call the Vandenberg Fitness Center at 606-3832. (U.S. Air Force photo/Airman 1st Class Kerelin Molina)

4 Ways to Combat the Comparison Trap Before it Kills Your Mindset

In my previous post, I talked about the dangers of the Comparison Trap. Comparing yourself, your circumstances or your accomplishments to other people robs you of gratitude, diminishes your perceived value and that of your actions, and places you in a victim mindset. I didn’t want to leave you hanging after delivering such a cautionary message. So here are a few strategies that we can use to combat this trap and continue taking powerful action from a sound mindset. Celebrate your own victories Take the time to celebrate your victories, however large or small. No, I may not accomplish the […]