March 21, 2016

How to Quit Sabotaging Yourself In 3 Easy Steps

This article was originally written for and published on It has since been revised. You don’t care about anyone but yourself. And neither do I. (To clarify, I don’t care about anyone but myself, not yourself.) This is a recipe for disaster, and it was true at one point, until I learned a few things the hard way. Until I was humbled by a difficult and important conversation. When I first quit Love and Theft (that’s right, I was once a D-list celebrity), I was in a tailspin. Not because I had done the wrong thing–I hadn’t–but because I […]
February 24, 2016

Why I Embrace the Angst of Pursing Big Goals

We who fight for our dream suffer far more when it doesn’t work out, because we cannot fall back on the old excuse, “Oh, well, I didn’t really want it any way.” We do want it, and [we] know that we have staked everything on it…” -The Alchemist   I was in tears. I remember sitting in the car with my dad, grasping for some sort of definite sign, some sort of concrete assurance that one day the dream that I wanted so badly would become more than that. I wanted it. I needed it. I desired it at a […]
February 19, 2016

Do You Know the Difference Between Greatness and Talent?

Greatness is not a level of talent. I’ll repeat that: greatness is not a level of talent. Sure, there are people who clearly seem to defy that statement: Stevie Ray Vaughan, Lebron James, Michael Phelps, Warren Buffet. But the reality, what we’ve seen of these people is what was exposed to the world after the work was put in. We didn’t revere Michael Phelps when he was training as a young teenager. We didn’t know about his 12-hour days. No one in their right mind can deny the importance of natural talent—I do believe that that is one ingredient to […]